Hint: It will absolutely be in the same areas of your life that you are constantly wanting and desiring more. It’s where you feel unfulfilled. It is where your commitment is absent.
How many times have you denied where in your life you are lacking commitment? Have many times have you started and stopped a new diet or exercise routine? Went to a church for a few weekends before falling back into your old patterns? Started a marketing plan that worked so well, you stopped doing it? Stop stopping! Every time you go back on a commitment you’ve made to yourself, you are subconsciously telling yourself that you are incapable of reaching your goals. Do this enough, and you will discover that quitting has become a habit, and you are just running in circles never reaching your goals.
Trust me, I know because I used to do it myself.
For years, I would say that I wanted to be fit and have an athletic physique, but all of my actions were in direct opposition to that goal. At that time I knew nothing of commitment. I treated commitment as what I should only be doing when I felt like it. I would work out when I wanted to or when it was convenient, make excuses about how it was okay to not do the necessary work required, eat what I wanted, and took actions based on how I felt.
Do what you say you are going to do when you say you are going to do it. Not when you feel like it, not when it’s convenient; do it in spite of whether you feel like it or not. Everyday. Consistently. That is how you create the habits and develop the discipline that keeps you committed. It’s how you live your Legacy along the way.
Being committed, creating habits, and developing discipline are how you become the person that you determined you had to become to get what you said that you wanted.
It is not easy, but it is absolutely, 100% worth it.
There are always going to be opportunities, excuses, and people who are going to try to take you off course from your path of living out your Legacy. That is why it is an absolute must that you are committed to doing the things that you said you would do, to become the person that you want to become. Every time you show up for yourself and do what you said you were going to do, you show both yourself and the people around you that you are a person of your word.
I know it’s hard. But everything worth doing usually is. Growth doesn’t come from a place of comfort, and trust me, being ruthlessly committed is not always comfortable. One way to make sure that you are keeping your word to yourself is to find a person, or even a group of people to share your journey with. When you speak your goals out loud to other people, you are more likely to stay committed. Also, that person or people can help hold you accountable. It’s not impossible to become the person you want to become on your own. It is, however, much lonelier. The support and accountability provided from surrounding yourself with other like-minded individuals are truly powerful.
If you can’t commit to yourself, how will you ever be able to commit to anyone or anything else?
Do the work and follow the system of being honest with yourself about your current reality. Get crystal clear on who it is that you have to become to get what you want. Back it up by your why—your Holy Cause. Be committed and take ruthless action. Form a team of people who will hold you accountable and support you throughout that process. Remain present every step of the way and never allow the thought of quitting to enter your mind.
This is one of the most surefire ways to begin Living Your Legacy immediately.