Worrying about what the people around you are doing is a distraction you don’t need, but one you can control.
Lately, I’ve been noticing that I’ve been getting triggered by others around me in my life. For no real good reason other than paying attention to others and what they’re doing and how they’re doing it and what they’re saying or what their results may be. Whether that be from a little bit of jealousy, wishing that I had some of the results that they had, or just through people saying things that irritate me. Basically, I need to remember my own advice, “stay in your own lane.”
So, I’ve started digging deeper into that and looking inside and wondering why I would be triggered. I know I’m not alone in this. I know that all of us, at some point in time, get consumed with other people and what they are doing or how they are doing something. Instead of focusing on ourselves, focusing on our own choices and making sure we stay in our own lane.
We all fall into the trap of looking at what other people have or what other people are doing, instead of focusing on what’s in front of us and what we can control. But I can tell you, from my own experience, that this is a fast way to sidetrack your own progress.
Spending time looking at others, and being jealous, or even just worrying about what someone else is doing or saying takes time and energy away from what you are trying to accomplish. It takes away from building the legacy you are aiming for, and it doesn’t serve any purpose other than to trigger you. Or make you doubt yourself, or minimize your own successes.
In the Army, the drill sergeants used to tell us, “stay in your lane, Private.” But, what does that mean? It means to worry about your own job, or goal. All of us have a role in life, and we need to worry about and focus on that and not on the others around us. You can bring this out of the military and apply it to civilian life, too. What he was saying was to stop worrying about what everyone around you is doing, and focus on what YOU are doing. When you stay in your own lane it’s the only way you’ll ever be successful and that you will ever create the Legacy Lifestyle you want for yourself and your family.
And that makes as much sense to me now as it did back then. It’s easy to forget that we can’t control other people. We can’t control what they do or say. We can’t control if they’re making good choices, or if they’re more or less successful than we are. But what we can do is stay in our own lane, and keep moving forward. Don’t let other people’s choices influence your journey on the path to your goals. Because at the end of the day, you are the only person who can create the life you want.