Who Do You Have To Become To Live a Legacy Lifestyle?

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Knowing who you have to become to live the legacy lifestyle is about becoming the person, inside and out that you need to be … the one who will make that commitment every single day.

As I’ve been writing these blogs over the last few weeks, I’ve been thinking back to the experiences that I’ve had over the last few years and the lessons those experiences have taught me. One that I go back to quite often was my experience participating in the SEALFIT Kokoro. I learned so much about myself during the training process, and then the event itself. Lessons that don’t just apply to physical fitness, but to every aspect of life. I especially apply these lessons to what it means to live a legacy lifestyle.

So many people have asked me, “Why would you ever do something like that?” And my answer is pretty simple. Honestly, I did it to see if it was something I could accomplish. I wanted to put myself to the test and see if, deep down, I had it in me to complete the course. I also did it, and continue to do events like Kokoro, because I want to continually push myself to grow as a person. Physically, mentally, and emotionally. It’s impossible to take on something like Kokoro, or the Kettle 100 and NOT have it force you to grow in every area of your life.

I want to continually push myself to grow as a person.

But most importantly, I choose to do things like Kokoro and the Kettle 100 and other ultra-marathons because it helps me become the person I want to become. It forces me to look at myself and my choices and figure out who I need to become to accomplish my goals. It helps me become laser-focused on who that man is, and I have no choice but to become him to accomplish what I set out to do.

This lesson applies not only to extreme physical goals or athletic events but to every area of your life. You want to be a successful business owner, an amazing husband, and father, a leader in your industry or your community? OK. All of those things are absolutely attainable! But the very first step in reaching those goals is to figure out who you have to become to make those dreams a reality. This is how you begin down the path of living a Legacy Lifestyle.


When I first signed up for Kokoro that’s exactly what I did. I asked myself “who do I truly have to become to complete this event?” You see, Kokoro is not a big man’s game. I was strong mentally six months before the event, but physically I was 275 pounds, still seeing myself as the college football athlete who was powerful, fit, healthy and 250 pounds. The reality was that I was 275 pounds. I knew damn well that 275-pound Nate Bailey was not going to complete Kokoro. Kokoro is not built for big men. It’s a 50-hour event; it’s extremely challenging, and the SEALFIT coaches really don’t give a damn whether you’re 275 pounds or 180 pounds; they’re going to expect you to complete each and every task as they ask you to complete it. They don’t give a shit how much you weigh or not, they just want the results.

So, I had to figure out who I had to become to complete the event. To get the results that would be demanded of me. I pictured that man, the one who was striving to live that legacy lifestyle, and for the first time in my life, I could truly say I went all in and became that person. I got clear on who that person was and dropped 45 pounds and trained the way I knew that I needed to train to get myself to complete the mission.

Figure out WHO you need to become, and then work every day to become that person.

And I did. It wasn’t easy, but I did it. And in doing it I learned that if I can look at a goal or an issue, and figure out who I need to become to reach that goal or overcome that issue, and really focus on becoming that person, there isn’t anything I can’t do. There is no reason I can’t live my legacy lifestyle. And there is no reason you can’t live your legacy lifestyle either.

So, if you’re facing a huge obstacle, or if you’re struggling to figure out how to reach a goal or accomplish your dream, I’d encourage you to first figure out WHO you need to become, and then work every day to become that person. You’ll look back after a while and realize that while you were working on becoming that person, you were also moving closer and closer to your goal.


Photo: Photo by Randy Jacob on Unsplash